So how are you dealing? How do you detach and get those promising words out of your head? It's like they ring over and over and over and i want to believe so badly that he meant them. That their still in there somewhere. are they? He took a "break" from me,, saying that he just needed to clear his head and decide whether he really was an alcoholic or not-he's never promised me to stop drinking-and that me "trying to control" him was more than he could take. don't normal people have arguments when they voice their feelings? No. Shane just breaks up with me. but this is the longest its been (two weeks) and i'm feeling confused, and so hurt.