Punished...you haven't done anything wrong!! I went through the same feelings wondering where I went wrong with my 20 year old son who has been using drugs since the 8th grade!! I was home for him..provided for him..encouraged and loved him...and gave him the security that some kids only long for. After finding this site I realized that it's his own actions that have caused him all his problems..not mine. He made his own choices. You have people that care here!!