Hmmmmn...talk about honesty! At age 75, and nearly 28 years sober, it's fortunate I have a good memory. Except for my very early sexual experiences (before I started drinking), I can't say I ever had much "sober sex", even after lots of partners and two husbands. Matter of fact, after I quit drinking, a lot of counseling and step work convinced me I almost had to be under the influence to "participate" because I was so sexually repressed.
Unfortunately, during sobriety, I've only had three partners (one of them my ex-husband...does that count?). This was in early sobriety when I was still very needy and vulnerable. I wasn't drinking, but I could hardly define it as "sober sex", since it was pretty meaningless.
Since about my third year of sobriety, I've been "celibate"...more through circumstances than choice, but it's OK. I'm counting on you younguns to confirm what I always suspected...that sober anything is better.