Sober sex is definitely better. When I was all pilled up...I was numb to any kind of emotion especially arousal...is that an emotion??????? anyway I can actually aceive the ever elusive orgasm(too vulgar?) now that I am sober. Although along comes with that is the guilt of faking it so many times due to the painkillers in me. Sometimes it hurts to feel things but nay time sober is better than all of the times high.....Viki