Judge you? Oh my gosh no!! We don't do that here and besides, I think your married to my husband. At least it sounds like him. I so understand about a lot of what you have said. Mine only touches me to get sex too. Yah...Drunk as a skunk, grabbing his crotch and making a face at me. Well that'll turn a girl on every time. NOT!!
I am so sorry you are going through this. Only you know what to do. I'm still working up the currage to move on my self, and I don't have kids.
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