It's a beautiful, and sad story..that can turn into a story of recovery..
For some people it's hard to deal with both recovery and the weight of a date related to a lost...But if for you this is something you feel ok with, i give you my complete congrats on having such an action...
I for once tried many times to get it together for others and it didn't work, because i was too destructive that i couldn't bare to deal with that...but i recognize, because i've been there, that it's one of the most beautiful actions a person can take..
i am sorry for your mom..But i am completely confident, believing in God, that you'll never walk alone, nomatter what happens...ok? Now you have an angel..