Wow, you have come a very long way. I only have boys, and they can take care of themselves one way or another, but a girl, well their different.
I am sorry you have to go through the chaos, but, at least the chaos is at a distance.
When she's tired of living that way she'll do something about it. Until then, you are doing the best thing you can do. You're giving her space to make up her mind about it.
Take care Marle.