hi skolc -
Ultimately, it comes down to what YOU are going to HAVE to do - because it's clear from your post you 'see' what's coming down the road. For YOU. It's tough to get this serious with a friend, being afraid of losing them and all ....
but when blade meets bone -
your friend isn't gong to go to jail for you.
Your friend isn't going to live in a dumpster with you.
See what I'm saying?
YOU ... know you have a problem.
That's the most important thing in this post, to me.
Your friend - if a real friend - will do whatever needs to be done to help you.
Not hurt you.
Maybe if you put it this way ... he'll get a clue.
read the excerpts from "Under the influence" in the stickys here,
maybe it'll give you something more to tell him.
It's nobody's 'fault' that you can't drink like he does.
Not his - not yours.
But it IS something that has to be looked at.
You're smart to be doing this before it's too late.
Please keep posting - and let me know how it goes!