when you are ready you will quietly step off the roller coaster.
You could do it in two days.. as he is boarding the plane say you ahve to go use the ladies room and then walk.. and KEEP ON WALKING... and he will be in HI and you will be moving home....
but, if you are not ready there is little point.
I wish I had been ready last August when XABF and I were in Montana. If I had known then what I know now I would have cleaned out his wallet and left him out there and driven home alone..
If I had known then what I knownow I would have been MORE than ready.