I'm so sorry you are going through this hard time Confused. Splendra you are soooo right, you hit the nail on the head for me too with the loving/longing. It's so true, i don't love my exab, i long for the person he is NOT and never will be. Barbara, what you said about the fantasy, i can so related, i've created this recovered wonderful man and it's been 2 months and he's "the old bum again". Confused i don't think they change unless 150% is put into it. My ex claimed he was fine and recovered and didn't want to drink......not true. Stay strong, everyone in here is so wonderful
