I remember when I was able to make the transition, and get past the hurt and anger and spitefulness... a time when I could look at him as the father of my sons,and someone who would always be a part of my life as we had these kids together.
It wasn't easy, but we made the transition from spouses to exes to parenting partners. It was the best gift we could give to our sons... and 20 yrs later it's still working. I know that we can sit together and be civil to one another at family events... I'm sure when each son gets married we'll both play a significant part in the festivities.
Thank god for a program of recovery.
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