Oh yeah, I also remember when my spouse used to say, "It's always the 'booze' talking, isn't it??? Did you ever consider I'm telling the TRUTH when I'm drunk and it's not the booze???" Uh, yeah, I spent way too much time listening to what he said when he was drinking. Stupidly, I didn't know for several years that I was speaking to the bottle, even when he wasn't even drunk. When they are active, you're speaking to the bottle, period.
One of my first new moves was instead of listening to one of his stupid rants, I simply put up my hand, said, "I'm not listening to this" and left the room. Felt good and shut him up. Of course, all he wanted was peace to drink anyway. But I didn't listen to it, and that was nice. I recommend it.