My RAH used crack for 20 years because he kept finding people to bail him out and enable. It wasn't until all the doors were closed that he finally put himself into recovery. His family continued to love him but it was at a distance. He'll be the first one to tell loved ones of an addict to "stand back - you're only helping them kill themselves if you support them in active addiction". Helping to get into treatment is another story. It's so hard though to step back - especially if you are a parent.