Hi again, Grandma. I was with my alcoholic boyfriend for 25 years. I finally got up the nerve to end my relationship with him two years ago, though we remained friends until the end of his life. Breaking up with him was very difficult to do, but for me, living with an active alcoholic was harder. Watching him drink himself to death was something I simply wasn't strong enough to do. I always hoped that he would change and I loved him to the end, but I loved him from a safe distance. Each of us has to find a solution that works for us.