"He fessed up to try to use that as leverage to let him stay"
XABF was stalking me on another forum of which I was a member for nearly 4 years. He was reading my posts (no biggie) but then he started copying them out of context and emailing them to me to try to "prove" that I was having an affair. Then he threatened to mail them along with personal correspondence to my estranged H.
Yes...I allowed him to "get to me" in that I cancelled my forum account and asked for the Admin to delete every single post. I have, however, been able to re-register under a new name and was able to advise my forum friends of my new identity. The downside is that I can no longer post anything remotely personal to my situation as a way of helping others because XABF is still lurking there.
I have nothing to hide from anybody so perhaps I jumped the gun but I feel slightly better that the X can no longer find "leverage". I am learning that As are deceitful and that their deceit is part of the disease. I really would not believe a word they say at this point.
ARL