So often, I've WANTED to forgive, and even thought I did... then found myself angry and resentful at the next "thing" that popped up.
What helps me is to remember that before I can forgive, I really, really need to process through the hurt feelings. To remember exactly what happened and how it made me feel... and then remember how I reacted. What I did. What was my part in it.
Often, I've discovered that my reaction was very similar to the very thing that hurt me. And that I may have some amends to make... or maybe not.
But it takes (for me), that 4th step process to really get to a place of true forgiveness and letting go of the hurt and anger and pain that keeps me circling the drain, instead of moving forward.
Thank you for this thought provoking post.
((hugs))