How do I say it, where he can think about it and come to a healthy conculsion.
Sad to say.......................................YOU CAN'T. He has to work this one out on his own...............................he may not have hit his bottom yet. Hopefully, he will discuss this with his sponsor, if he has one.
Now, what are you doing for you? Have you tried Alanon? Or a therapist? Or Both? Remember the 3 C's:
You didn't CAUSE it,
You can't CONTROL it, and
You can't CURE it.
He has to work, or not work his own recovery. I have found, as others here have, that when I 'focus' on myself, the A in my life still does what she/he wants to do and I am less stressed.
Please keep posting and let us know how YOU are doing, we do care!!!!
Love and hugs,