Originally Posted by
Spritual Seeker 
I understand completely. We see our sons so little that I know even a short visit in the car while providng a ride will be good for you and him too. When my son is trying I don't punish him with refusing help when it is something I want to do. I will do a favor now and then just like I would if he wasn't an addict.That's what families do for one another. Hopefully your spouse will understand and not be another source of frustration. Maybe he can be happy that you get to see your son. If not, oh well.
I appreciate this response.
My youngest is 26 and has been in and out (mostly in) jail since he was 17. It's like I hardly know him any more. We went to visit him 2 wks ago where he got to hold his now 2yr old daughter for the first time. I don't punish him, he's been punished enough. He's paying for his crimes.
The very few times I have visited him have been good for me. At least I know he's fed.
The oldest is another story. HE tries so hard but falls down. Now he's paying too.
You just do what you are comfortable with and all will be well with you.