Thank you for your replies. I did read the stickies..but still posted as I am feeling very hurt. I have read so many co dependent books and I know all about hot sex and how it's not love- etc..and I realize that you are trying to be helpful, Prodigal, to someone who might appear completely naive- but that I am not. I do see a therapist and I have been involved in AL-Anon.
I'm just hurt.
And I was asking about the mood change- whether it was something anyone else had experienced- abrupt changes in behavior. Could it be that he started drinking...that was what I was wondering.
I was looking for someone who might identify- not a lecture. I know sometimes people need a firm talking to about their thinking patterns- but I don't think that a first time poster is one of them unless they were contemplating doing something serious to hurt themselves etc. I'm only try to understand and grow from the situation althewhile feeling full of pain.