Welcome Lady Blue! Glad that you found SR! Read some stickies at the top of the forum page!
Denny has given as always excellent advice in regards to AL-Anon and finding maybe one during lunch.
Staying in NJ (I live here too) is just not an option anymore as I can relate! I also had thought of moving to where my family is in Florida. Your brother is right if that is the point that you feel that you are at in your life and you are ready to leave!
He has made choices....now you will need to make choices for YOU!
