Originally Posted by
Lobo 
Friends, some of you know what transpired last night with my daughter, well it really took a turn for the worst. After our conversation last night and trying to deal with the rape issue she went out drinking. Now she doesn't usually drink......she does drugs. Well she got pulled over and she was intoxicated and I'm not sure at this point if it was alcohol or drugs or both. She was arrested on charges pretaining to drugs and alcohol. Her truck was impounded because they found drug paraphanalia. She of course wanted me to bail her out. I was so torn because of feeling sorry for her, but I decided it was best to leave her there. This might lead to her getting the help she so desparetly needs. It could be a court order at her hearing. They have been so nice to deal with at the jail. They put me in touch with forensics and they deal with the mental health issues. They told me that they will detox her if she needs it. They will medicate her and put her in their drug program while she is there. I am waiting for a call back.........they are going to look into her case and call me and let me know what they are going to do for her. I know she is going to be flippin' mad at me for not bailing her out. At first I was going to make a deal with her that if I bailed her out that she would check herself into the mental health hospital. She said she would, but I was afraid after one day she would check herself out. I couldn't do anything about that because she is over 18. Then she would be back out and back to bad behavior and no help. She can't leave jail and just maybe it will help her to get to the right help. I hope I am doing the right thing. I just don't know anymore. I'm exhausted, this is just all too much. I just want her to get help........I love her so much.
Thank you for listening...........Lois
IMO, Yes, def the right thing! There's a reason it's happening like this, someone put her behind bars for her own good, let her get herself out. She's already trapped in her own world & head anyway. Let her fight to get out or else she won't know that she can.
I think when we are scared, mad, threatened, etc that other person inside of us pops out like a wild little indian with guns blazing and pointing at everyone, that kid inside of us who thinks we need protection from the world and it makes us do crazy things.
If someone doesn't tame and train that little indian it's never going to learn, bailing it out is just reinforcing that yes you do need to be here, you do need to keep protecting.
Well, it makes sense to me, lol, it's that whole id, ego thing. Rewarding/Reinforcing bad behavior, makes you think in a way that you did need to do what you did.
We do crazy things to protect ourselves, when we don't need to be protected.
By not bailing her out you are protecting her.
LOL, or at least that's how I see it.
((((Lobo))))