Heck, Teke, I think those are some of the very things that got me INTO using in the first place!
One of the exercises I used to do as part of my cool down routine (I was an aerobics leader for 8 years), was one where we sat on the floor, closed our eyes, wrapped our arms around ourselves... then tried to imagine a picture of ourselves as a small child. I have a photo I used to think of - my kindergarten school picture.... in it, I am crying because I thought we were getting shots. That little girl is so pitiful, so in need of love. As we are sitting there, hugging ourselves, we try to imagine giving that little girl a hug... to be the adult that accepts her just as she is. To love her unconditonally....
I have trouble telling my adult self that I am a competent, intelligent, beautiful, caring, giving woman... but that little girl - I can tell HER. I can repeat it every morning.... you are good, and kind, and loving and thoughtful and perfect - just. as. you. are.
(((((Teke))))))