In my humble opinion I think you should focus on …… working on you.
Alanon is a great start, even if you don’t like the idea keep going anyway.
If you do see a councilor or a doc, see if they have dealt with alcoholic relationships and families.
This will help also.
KEEP BUSY! I can not stress enough, go out, have fun, get a hobby, and take a class!
In time, you will see that the best person in your life is not another, but yourself.