Ya know, it's funny- a counselor I was seeing first brought up the codependency thing to me. I was HORRIFIED!!!! I was not codependant!!1 Anyway, she gently suggested to me that I not react when he pulled his stunts. Horror again!!!! I HAD to freak out when he finally came home!!!! That was his punishment!!! How could I let him get away with all this!!!!
Oh, he always did admit that he was a jerk, etc,. in the most genial quacking way, but it did no good, as he would just proceed to continue to do it....
Anyway, I did get beyond the scenes, and only rarely say things to him. As everyone says, it does no good and only upsets me.
I still think it's unfair that he does whatever he wants and gets away with it.
My "revenge" is that I only do what I feel like doing around the house. There are 2 adults here and he should keep his end up. If he doesn't, oh well, he'll have to live with it until SOMEONE feels like doing it.