Ann,
You have a really good way of putting my thoughts into words for me!
Denying our anger must be a classic symptom of co-dependency. I remember early days in Al Anon when I told some recovery friends I just didnt GET angry, and I just didn't FEEL angry, and they smiled and told me yes, I WAS angry and it would be better if I just learned to manage and deal with my anger.
They were right, of course. They usually are.
It comes from my childhood, where I was taught that there were "good" feelings and "bad" feelings. Now I know that feelings are just feelings - not good or bad.
Thanks for this post, Ann, and for knowing just what I need and when I need it!
Hugs
Cats