I held back my anger for so many years that I became afraid to let it go. I was like a volcano ready to erupt and was certain I would explode if I even began to release the feelings.
I was angry with my son, with God, with life and with anyone who tried to get in my way of controlling the universe. It wasn't pretty, I'm sure.
Recovery let me release these resentments a few at a time, and taught me how to do that in a way that was healthy for me and those around me. In time, the resentments led to forgiveness and compassion replaced anger as the primary emotion.
I also learned that it is okay to get angry and okay to let it out in a healthy way. Venting helped me release the pressure and keep it all in perspective.
The important thing for me today is to let anger be about my own emotions and not a reaction to someone else's bad behaviour.
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