Thanks so much. The logical, trying to detach me sits back and says the things like, "I can't make it easier for them" and I know its true, but it sure hurts to see them go through it. Especially when the kids already feel abandoned by him, and are clinging to any contact with him. Ironically, he always mentions he's a great dad. I've made a decision not to acknowledge the statement when he does this, as I think I would become a shreiking harpy should I start, and as he wouldn't get it anyway. He truly thinks he's a great dad.
I love hearing from all of you, because you really help me keep my resolve firm. I sometimes wonder if I'll ever trust my own judgement again? I know my course will be rough, but at least I'm on the right one!!!!