This is true, Mr Christian. But it's tough when you are trying not to influence your kids opinion. I try not to comment when they tell me what dad has planned for them. I know what he is and how he'll act, but I have to give him the opportunity to do the right thing. After they're let down, I give the kids the "Dad does the best he can right now" speech and try to explain how he doesn't intend to hurt them, yadda yadda. Believe me, I'd LOVE to tell them that Dad has only one concern now, his drinking, and until/if he hits bottom it's not going to get better. That would make me feel good, but be a lousy thing to do to them. Maybe it's a codie thing, but, you bet I resent what he does and the position he puts us all in!