Hey GP,,,,,
I got a question. How old are the kids?
I found with my girls, there was a certain point, I had to be up front and honest with them. Maybe tell them something that wasn't pleasant, or talk to them about something that might be a tad uncomfortable. But i wanted them to learn, that open communication shouldn't be uncomfortable or scary. That's why we were a family. If you couldn't talk to them, then you had nothing.
However, I had to be very, very careful to not let my "personnal" feelings get in the way. Sometimes I would even say to them, "look, I have my OWN feelings about this situation, but this isn't about that, its about giving you guys the facts so YOU don't feel its anything you did or said. It's not your fault". At least if it was out inthe open, there would be no confusion and the issue would be recognized.
Then I agree with Mr C, Move on. Don't let you or the kids get caught up in his disease.
So, was it Dice K?
Peace