For a long time my husband wanted to deny the severity of my daughter's problem. He did not have the contact with her that I did. They were never really close because they were too much alike. When my husband was younger he tried every drug there was so he thought she would just outgrow it like he did. Even last night he talked about knowing a lot of people who used pot or alcohol as a crutch. I had to tell him that there is a difference between a crutch and full-blown addiction. The people with the crutch are not losing everything important in life. His daughter is. I think my husband needed his denial. But he has always been strong on the not enabling part, even before her addiction. Even if it is a day late and a dollar short with your hubby, at least he IS getting it. Some people never do. Hugs and prayers that your son continues to do well. Hugs, Marle