They are two separate issues. There are very informative stickies at the top of the Women in Recovery Forum and at the top of each of the family and friends forums regarding abuse. It would likely be helpful for you to read them all.
Thank you Duet for the gift of your time and benevolence to have posted that here.
I think this is a very misunderstood issue.
Also, there are great stickies re:addiction at the tops of the forums also.
Best wishes,
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