((((((((D12))))))))) I like the short name too, Parent. You don't have to be a doormat, D.
Glad your here, sorry for the reason. I was once married to a pot smoking alcoholic.
Lasted about 10 years, off and on.
More off than on. Couldn't keep him home on payday. I'd kick'em out, then 2 weeks later, I'd do it all over again. That was 17 years ago.
Today, I'm married to a wonderful man and I'm very happy with our relationship.
(most of the time. lol Hey! nobody's perfect, right?)
I came to sr in 2005 in hopes of "saving" my addicted son, who's 25.
This is a wonderful place for support, advice, and a shoulder when you need one.
We can't change, control, or cure our addicts, but we can learn to change and control the way we deal with them. Taking care of ourselves and focusing on our own recovery. Recovery from codependency.
Step 1: admitting we are powerless over others and that our lives have become unmanagable.
You've just done that, right?
Now, it's time to take control of you and your happiness.
Sending prayers up for you, your ah, and step son.
Keep coming back.
A new sr buddy,
Linda