welcome...the addict in my life is my son.if loving them would fix them my son would have been fixed when he started14 yrs ago.i promise you it does not get better.time takes its toll on the drug & they take a toll on you.do not let them destroy your life.you did not CAUSE it,you can not CONTROL it & you can not CURE iT.it is up to you to change what you do.they will only get clean when they get ready.there is nothing you can do for them.i am saying a prayers for you, your husband & your step son.