I'm sorry Lake...our addict kids lash out in the cruelist of ways.
If it helps, I had to remind myself on many occassions:
What they do (and say) is NOT who they are. Its the addiction talking
Also, many times when I asked my HP for guidance, it came in strange forms.
Anger is a good motivator for us to begin detaching.
Wishing you peace
((((Hugs)))
Cece