thanks for the good thoughts donna. I am continuing to stay strong taking one day at a time. Right now I am five hours away from my son. I do not call him but I wish him well. I do not send praise to him for doing well. He should not be praised for what he should have done all along. My brother keeps in touch with him but even my brother takes a hands off attitude and does not give my son money, or rides to work. The next hurdle will be where he will try to live the end of July and most importantly what happens when he gets $$$ in his pocket. Only time will tell but it's up to him.....thanks everyone for your kindness. dixie