This is a good time to focus on you, Rose. It may sound trite but trite can be true.
We can't force solutions but we can be open to our intuition and our program. I am sure you have quite the committee meeting going on in your head. Quiet them by staying busy. Share, don't isolate. I know you don't want to ever have to go through this again so use this opportunity wisely.
Hugs,
JT