Drained,
The only thing I would explain to your ex is why I am filing the motions to have him held in contempt of the FM. He keep contacting you and not putting his pay check in the account for the bills to be paid. Once you show him you are not playing games anymore he will get the picture he has to change. You can not tell an addict anything that will make him change, he has to want it. You have to go on with your life and the lives of your children. He is in denial and is doing what addicts do try to control everyone around them and blame everyone else. Good luck. Talk to your lawyer and listen to his advice he is working for your best interest in all of this