Drained wife, what is "your" plan? How long do you want to continue feeling a victim of his behavior? Because you will be a victim as long as you allow him to victimize you by listening to his words, just words, that try to upset you and control your life.
You have rights, you have a lawyer, you have a restraining order in place to prevent him from having contact with you (which you continually allow him to break with no consequence).
He isn't going to change any time soon, and neither is your life going to change until YOU are the one to change it. He does not hold the key to your happiness, YOU do.
Wishing it were different will never make it so. Only your actions can make your life better, only your actions can stop the insanity and remove you from being the victim and allow you to become a survivor.
It's up to you.
Hugs