welcome to S.R. it sounds as if you going to catch on real quick to our recovery program. my addict is my son.it took baby steps for me to be able to let go of him & turn him over to God.since i have done this MY life has gotten so much better. we do not have to give in to our addicts.we have the choice to say no & to do nothing just like they have to choice to use or stay clean.keep coming back.there is alot of info here & a lot of caring people that will help you walk thru this.prayers for u & your addict.