(((((((Roe2007)))))))
I'm Linda. My 25 yo son is the addict in my life.
It took me entirely too long to leave the guilt behind and learn that No is a very loving word. I was starting to hate myself for doing things/giving to others, when I really just wanted to say nope.
Read around. The stickies up top, Melodie Beattie's, "Codependent, No More, book,
and start attending alanon/naranon meetings in your area.
You've come to a good place. Most of us here have been recovering awhile from codependency. So there's plenty of support, feedback, and a friendly shoulder.
Learning to take care of ourselves, is an effort we all strive to achieve. It takes time, but I know you'll get there. Practice your no's in the mirror. It's fun.
No explaination, just no. Your point gets across better that way.
Walking beside ya and sending hugs,
Linda
Searching for euphoria.