Hope,
I can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I sure do know what it's like to be worried sick over adult children. It's so hard to watch them make mistakes. But, unfortunately, they're not our little guys anymore, they're big people, who will learn and grow just like the rest of us.
Prayers are with your family, maybe tyr to think this is the way your hp wants it.
((( Hugs )))