lol! y'all are so funny! stbx does mean soon to be ex. well, the end of the story is...he called and met me and we paid the money together. i made a copy of the reciept and gave it to him. this is only the second time i've seen him in 10 weeks. he walked me to the car and said could he have a hug and i said thanks i've been missing that. he broke down and started crying but turned away so i wouldn't see him. darn! i miss that man sometimes. but of course he was sober at the time. still won't admit he has a problem. oh well.