We all like to think we're different. That for this reason or that, AA doesn't apply to us. I did think I'm different. I'm not different. It (AA) did apply to me.
And, actually, once you realize that you're not different, there is a certain comfort and strength in knowing you're not alone.
That said, I do think alcohol may work differently a little bit on women due only to physiology. The Big Book of AA even mentions this.
As far as powerless, here is the old adage. Buy a large bottle of booze. Pour yourself 15 shots, and put them on the counter. Take 2 shots, and leave the rest alone for a day or two. If you do make it a day or two, wait and see how long you can stand not taking another shot. That, in a nutshell, is powerless over alcohol.