crisis, chaos, calamity, confusion, and cussin'.......yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes.
this was my x's m.o.
and there have been times i have done the same with him just to get revenge...i would do it when he was real vulnerable, like hungover from a two week drinking binge, or was trying to really, really be good to me after abusing me.
i learned to be very subltle with it. and i would delight in watching his mass confusion.
that was way before al-anon...and he was the only one that i have ever done it to....because i'm really not that way. well, i guess i was, if i did it.