it took me a long time to make him leave . he was always a happy drunk , life of the party . never was obviously drunk or stumbling , was never abusive either physically or mentally . Over 10 years there was probably 3 times where his drinking started keeping him out late at nght and then he would cut down (never quit because he was never an alcoholic) But that last 6 - 9 months before he went to his first rehab he changed . he got meaner and more arrogant . I learned later he was doing drugs .
It was a whole year later and his 4th rehab that my 10 yr old daughter asked me 'why was God doing this to us again , why is daddy back in the hospital' and then it hit me . I wasnt doing enough to protect my kids . I was still doing the dance. He lives with his mom now