Congradulations to him! It is going to be a blessing that this all happened. I wouldn't assume you will lose more because of this bipolar diagnosis. This man has just been freed of the mood swings and the drudgery of trying to manage mania and depression. With medication he will stabalize and perhaps get a better job. Undiagnosed bipolar usually work beneath their full potential. With alcohol removed from his life, medication in place, I can hardly wait for you to see him transform. The biggest trick to managing bipolar disorder is compliance with medications. The best is yet to come and I'd remind him and yourself of that.