My ex hubby sure is feeling the pain now! Mentioned before, don't know if you saw, but. . .I found out I was pregnant a week after he moved in with his girlfriend. He chose to lie, cheat & use & drink again, well got him OUT of my life. I wanted to hurt him real bad, all the girlfriends too. Well. . .I eventually calmed down, he has seen his now 3 yr old daughter all of 2 times and that was when she was a baby. Who's crying now????? I'm the winner in the deal and he's sittin his dumba** in prison. Another thing that got me through was being grateful that I wasn't waking up or. . .coming to, I should say, in all those nasty places with all that shame, remorse & guilt that he had. YEP, I was ever so grateful it was him and not me. He's got to live with his pain, I got over mine. I will add one more quick thing here. . .THE PAIN OF STAYING IN SOMETHING THAT JUST AIN'T GONNA WORK IS HORRIBLE, THE PAIN OF MOVING ON WILL EVENTUALLY LESSEN AND HEAL.