And it makes sense to me too - partly! Of course I want my parnter to be happy.
Everyone does. Even I did when I was drinking. The problem with alikes is the whole world revolves around us. Everyone and everything around us is just a support system for our happiness (AKA Our Way). l actually told my ex once "If everyone would just do as I say, I'd be happy. If I'm happy, we're all happy !" Only after recovery do we realize that it's an inside job.
Insanity I tell 'ya.