Ever since I found the boxes of Sudafed I haven't looked anymore. I am trying to do the detach thing but am finding it hard to detach from his problem without detaching from him entirely. How do you love someone but try and not care or obsess over what they are doing to themselves? How is detaching different from indifference? I always thought that hate was not the opposite of love that indifference was. I know he senses some distance from me but he has not asked me about it. So if he asks me why I am acting strangely do I tell him I was digging around in his bag and found the sudafed? If it won't do any good what do I say?