Hey jude,,,,(he, he , he,,no singing the beatles now,,,)
I find it enspiring how you've been able to put your recovery to work here. Your staying "neutral" with your codieism and not letting your A's actions/manipulation of others/and past history affect you putting your head down and plowing forward,,,,
Kudo's to you!!!!
I've never been divorced. I got off easy, my husband died,,,lol. didn't have to deal with property, visitation, child support or any of the rest. Being solely responsible for the day to day meant I got pretty used to it, so now, leaving my A it's been easier cause I expect NOTHING from him. If you followed my story the past few days, its ALWAYS been about him wanting things from me.
I do understand trying to keep the peace however. It's stressful enough without you getting all "twisted" in the fundemenatals. if you get something out of him, maybe its more than you expected. I guess that better than making yourself sick,,,
Peace